Exclusive: Jacqueline Laurita Open Letter To Jane Wong


Last Friday, we reported how Real Housewife of New Jersey Jacqueline Laurita responded to a woman’s ignorant comments on autism. A woman named Jane Wong commented on the Autism Behavioral Services page, asking, “Why do people give birth to autistic kids? Waste of society’s resources.”

Rather than respond with hate, Laurita claimed she should educate her.

We are thrilled to present her exclusive, open letter to Wong. In the open letter below, Laurita addresses Wong’s comments and provides an extensive, heart wrenchingly beautiful response.

Here is the emotional letter below- and be forewarned, you may need a tissue, as this made us cry with how beautiful it was:

Dear Jane W(r)ong,

When your appalling and uneducated post appeared on the Facebook wall of the Autism Behavioral Services page, I couldn’t believe that a human being could have such a lack of compassion and empathy for others by having the audacity to say something so vile, and so publicly, about the life of another human being. I thought to myself, ”What a hateful, hurtful and ignorant thing to say!” For a moment, I found your comment extremely offensive and I felt anger towards you.


   For a moment, I allowed your words to upset me, but I quickly choose to take that power away from you. Instead, I began to feel sadness for you. I have no idea what challenges in life that you have had to endure, or what kind of mental programming you’ve grown up with for you to think the way you do. I don’t know what has caused the anger and bitterness to build up inside of you that compelled you to lash out to hurt others the way that you did. I just know that hurt people… hurt people.


I began to think that maybe I could help you in some way. Maybe if I educated you, just a little, I could open up your mind into a new way of thinking and possibly open your heart to allow in a little more compassion. I believe it’s worth an effort.


As a very proud Mother of a beautiful, intelligent, loving child with Autism, I want to provide you with an answer to your seemingly seething question that you so boldly and publicly asked,


“Why do people give birth to Autistic kids? Waste of societies resources.”




#1- There is NO medical detection or prenatal test to tell you that your child will be born with Autism. (That answers your question.) Even if I had known of my son’s Autism prior to his birth, I would have STILL chosen to give him Life.


#2- Autism signs and symptoms are usually discovered within the first few years of life. (The life you believe should never exist.)


I am a Mother that waited 6 ½ years and went through 5 miscarriages to finally give birth to, what I consider, my miracle child. I couldn’t wait to hold him in my arms, look into his eyes, and love him forever. The love for my child is immeasurable and I will continue to love him unconditionally regardless of any challenges he may have. He is a joy to our entire family and has taught us more in life than we ever imagined we would be teaching him. Thank GOD he exists! He is worth every resource we can get that will help bring out the best individual that he can be. He is worth every skill we can teach him that may make his life a little easier in the future.


#3- In case you’ve never done the research…Autism is a bio-neurological developmental disability that affects the brain’s normal development of social and communication skills. They also could exhibit some self-stimulatory and repetitive behaviors. People with Autism Spectrum Disorders process and handle information in their brain differently than other people. DIFFERENTLY, NOT LESS than other people!


#4- Autism is the fastest growing developmental disorder, affecting 1 in 68 children in this country, yet it is the most underfunded. (So we need MORE of those limited resources, you say are a waste of society.)


What I am wondering is what makes you feel that you are more entitled to life and the use of our societies resources to better yourself, than someone with Autism? (DIFFERENT, NOT LESS!) What makes you feel more superior? I’m curious what useful and positive lessons you feel you are teaching the world from the resources you’ve already received from our society?


#5- Although there is no known cure for Autism, as of yet, it is treatable, and with the right early detection, intervention and treatment services (AKA…The resources you say are a waste of this society) the signs and symptoms related to Autism can be greatly improved and in some cases completely overcome. (So you see, the resources are NOT a “waste”.)


EVERY life is worth fighting for and improving on,…even yours Miss Wong.


#6- EVERY child, with or without Autism, or some other challenge in life, MATTERS!! Every human being has something to contribute to this world if people would pay attention to the lessons to be learned from each individual.


#7- MANY well-known people that have been “suspected to have”, or have been diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum have successfully contributed to this society (PEOPLE that you feel should never have been born because you feel they wasted societies resources.) These are SOME of those people that have changed the world. Imagine if none of them had been born.


Albert Einstein- Theoretical physicist and scientist, who made the revolutionary changes in the world of modern physics.


Alexander Graham Bell-He was a scientist, inventor, engineer and innovator who invented the first telephone.


Al Gore- American politician, advocate and philanthropist that served as 45th Vice President of the United States. He received a Nobel Peace Prize for his work in climate change activism.


Andy Warhol- American artist popularly known for his visual art movement called the Pop ArtArtist.


Bill Gates- American businessman and programmer. Former CEO and Chairman of the world’s largest personal computer software company, Bill gates is one of the world’s richest people.


Bob Dylan- legendary American musician, singer, songwriter, artist and writer. He sold more than 100 million records, making him one of the best-selling artists of all time. He won numerous awards.


Dan Aykroyd- a Canadian actor, writer comedian and singer.


Danny Beath- award-winning British landscape and wildlife photographer


David Bryne- an Oscar winner musician


Emily Dickinson- A Famous American poet.


Handel- Baroque composer famous for his operas, oratorios, anthems and organ concertos.


Henry Ford- American industrialist, the founder of the Ford Motor Company, and sponsor of the development of the assembly line technique of mass production and one of the richest and best-known people in the world.


Jane Austen- English novelist, romantic fiction.


Johann Sebastian Bach- one of classical music’s greatest composers and musician of the Baroque period. He is considered one of the greatest Western composers of all time.


Leonardo da Vinci- Italian polymath, painter, sculptor, architect, musician, mathematician, engineer, inventor, anatomist, geologist, cartographer, botanist, and writer. He is widely considered to be one of the greatest painters of all time.


Lewis Carroll-Author, Mathematician, logician, Angelican deacon and photographer. He wrote “Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland” and it’s sequel.


Ludwig van Beethoven- Composer and pianist who remains one of the most famous and influential of all composers.


Mark Twain- American author and humorist. Author of “The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” and it’s sequel “The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.”


Matt Savage-Autistic savant, Jazz Child Prodigy


Michael Jackson-Known as the King of Pop, he was an American singer, songwriter and dancer. He holds the Guinness World Record of winning highest number of Grammy Awards.


Michelangelo- Italian sculptor, painter, architect, poet, and engineer of the High Renaissance. He was considered the greatest living artist in his lifetime, and one of the greatest artists of all time. A number of his works in painting, sculpture, and architecture rank among the most famous in existence.


Sir Isaac Newton- English physicist and mathematician. He formulated the classical theories of mechanics and optics. He invented calculus, Newton’s Three Laws of Motion, discovered gravity, and contributed more to the development of science than any other individual in history.


Steven Spielberg- Producer, Director and Writer. One of the most influential film personalities in the history of film. Hollywood’s best known Director and one of the wealthiest filmmaker’s in the world.


Temple Grandin- an American doctor of animal science. Food animal handling systems designer and author. She was listed in the top 100 influential people of the world in heroes’ category by Time 100.


Thomas Edison- American inventor and businessman. He developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the world, including the phonograph, the motion picture camera, and a long-lasting, practical electric light bulb.


Thomas Jefferson-3rd President of the United States and draftsman of the U.S. Declaration of Independence.


Tim Burton- American film producer, writer, poet and animator.


Vincent van Gogh- a major Post-Impressionist artist/painter.


Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart- Music composer, skillful pianist, and violinist of the classical period. He is considered to be the father of modern western music.


Woody Allen- American actor, director, screenwriter, comedian and musician and 23 times Academy Award nominee.


…Just to name a few.

I hope you take some time to understand how your insensitive words may have affected families, such as my own, who choose to see the beauty of children with Autism. We love them unconditionally and endlessly. As parents we will continue to fight hard to give our children whatever we can to give them the skills they need to help make their lives easier for their future. We are parents who will continue to believe that these bright souls not only have the power to continue to learn, but also have plenty to teach the world. Raising a child on the Autism spectrum is a joy and challenge every single day, and we appreciate any information, resources and support we can get from others. I hope in the future, you choose empathy over your lack of compassion.

Jacqueline Laurita


For more on Autism Awareness, be sure to visit Laurita’s website that features an entire section dedicated to it and click on the picture above to see a gallery of pictures of Jacqueline and Nicholas